tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4401558005435693965.post4129935466743010966..comments2023-11-02T06:09:04.178-06:00Comments on Lady of Perpetual Chaos: Do Nice Guys FInish Last?Lady of Perpetual Chaoshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01434516025772250275noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4401558005435693965.post-44607505378593441932011-09-12T23:33:54.861-06:002011-09-12T23:33:54.861-06:00I'm just going to make sure I don't hit ct...I'm just going to make sure I don't hit ctrl + p.... thanks for the tip! :)Camillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03809109574604262862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4401558005435693965.post-36761724140467419822011-09-12T17:34:12.482-06:002011-09-12T17:34:12.482-06:00Yes, most nice guys in the idea of people pleasure...Yes, most nice guys in the idea of people pleasures finish last. Nice guys or girls who are always trying to make people happy never know how to express their apposing view even if they have one. But a nice guy is not always a good guy. To me a good guy is one who stands up for you if people are messing with you or tells people to stop calling you fat when you are 9 months pregnant. I nice guy just laughs along trying to make everyone happy. I have read his books and found them very interesting. More important festering can be a good thing if you use they time to get more information, decide a solid view that you are going to stick with. most of the time I just fester with incomplete info and that just gives me wrinkels, lack of sleep and the crankys.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02589025299131911093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4401558005435693965.post-10958297822728346402011-09-12T10:38:37.899-06:002011-09-12T10:38:37.899-06:00I think it totally depends on what your finish lin...I think it totally depends on what your finish line is. Maybe if your only goal in life is to have buckets of money, then yes, shove people down and tromp on their faces on the way to the top. If your goal is to be happy, then yeah, not so much. I also think people can find a nice way to say anything at all, if they can just take the time to think before they speak. I would never consider myself a doormat, but I do consider myself to be nice. Totally missing out on the buckets of money, though.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02299878122282750133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4401558005435693965.post-17214578233625918532011-09-10T16:50:47.714-06:002011-09-10T16:50:47.714-06:00So nice is equivalent to having no backbone? Well,...So nice is equivalent to having no backbone? Well, I can see how the writer would come to that conclusion but I don't think it should be taken as a wide-sweeping statement. Not all nice guys are cowards. Some just really don't have an opinion either way and let someone else make the decision. Kind of like planning my wedding. The Man has very little opinion when it came to colors or favors or what he would wear but when it came to the location? He spoke up. Because he did, I knew how important it was to him and that's where we were married.<br />Not necessarily a coward, just not overly-opinionated.Jessica G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10641255166732692924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4401558005435693965.post-18358182127491560122011-09-09T19:17:26.354-06:002011-09-09T19:17:26.354-06:00I think nice guys can finish first but chances are...I think nice guys can finish first but chances aren't as good for them. Think of all the "first finishers" out there--are they nice people? Do they have a good moral code? Do they have good business ethics? Some do, but from what I've seen, those who've finished first by the world's standards are not generally "nice."<br /><br />But outside of the world's view, nice guys do finish first. And that's what matters most. When the money, fame, etc are gone, nice guys will still be at the top of their game while those first placers will have lost theirs.<br /><br />And yes, we need to communicate much better. We've lost that art due to social media and cell phones and the Internet. I say talk it up as long as you can do it in a healthy, constructive way (even if I prefer to rot and fester at times). :)<br /><br />P.S. I'm tired and a little out of it, so I hope this made sense.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12394453668517249660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4401558005435693965.post-15779869968646484872011-09-09T10:54:40.489-06:002011-09-09T10:54:40.489-06:00I don't know about the correlation between nic...I don't know about the correlation between nice vs. lack of communication---but low communication skills could seriously cause problems. Just look at all the issues among singles now that facebook, email and texting are the main forms of communication. A lack of emotional communication is getting bigger all the time.Barbaloothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01541675474218507411noreply@blogger.com